How To Be More Assertive: 10 Strategies To Increase Your Assertiveness

How To Be More Assertive: 10 Strategies To Increase Your Assertiveness

How To Be More Assertive

Learn how to be more assertive…

If you want more respect, a better job, more friends, improved health, more money and a better life, then learn how to be assertive. Being assertive is KEY to a great life!

Do these scenarios sound familiar?..

You’re at a restaurant and don’t like your meal. Perhaps it’s dry, over cooked, or salty. The waiter approaches you and asks you if everything is OK. “Yes” you mutter as you grumble to your self.

Your neighbour hosts a loud party – again. It’s ruining your sleeping pattern and causing you distress. You don’t say anything as you don’t want to fight with neighbours.

Your boss keeps asking you to do overtime at the last minute. You have plans, but don’t want to let them down so you reluctantly agree.

These are classic signs of passive behaviour. You feel you have no control over your life. You may appear happy on the outside, but resentment gnaws away inside. The stress this causes is also detrimental to both your mental and physical health.

Some people attempt to make up for their passive ways by being aggressive. They shout at the waiter for a bad meal, set fire to burning dog doo on their neighbours porch, or storm out of their jobs after launching a tirade at their boss.

Aggressive behaviour is not helpful either, and rarely resolves the situation adequately. It often creates enemies instead. You need to avoid passive AND aggressive behaviour, and be more assertive…

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What is assertive?

Assertive is being confident and self assured without being aggressive or passive. Assertive people have the following characteristics…

  • Are confident and self assured

  • Can express their thoughts and feelings in a calm and rational way

  • Listen to people’s point of view

  • Have open body language and good eye contact

  • Don’t act passively or aggressively

Passive-aggressive

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Avoid Being Passive-Aggressive!

In my experience, A LOT of people display passive-aggressive behaviour. Does this apply to you?…

Someone wrongs you in some way. You feel aggrieved but avoid telling them because you don’t want to look aggressive, or you don’t want to risk conflict.

You remain silent whilst negative feelings build up. Their behaviour whirls around your head, making you feel more and more angry. Eventually Boom!! you explode with rage.

The problems with passive-aggressive

Passive-aggressive behaviour is bad for your health. Bottled up feelings harm your mental and physical health. It also stresses you out, leaving you feeling miserable.

Passive-aggressive behaviour allows problems to escalate. People may not be aware they’re putting on you, and may do this more. They think you’re OK as you say nothing.

When you explode, you don’t usually deal with the problem. You may be so angry that you act in an irrational way. People may not hear your point of view. Instead they think you’re acting crazy, and don’t take you seriously.

It is difficult to be successful when you’re passive-aggressive because someone will always stand in the way of your goals. Also the stress can hinder your progress.

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Assertive people get the juicy burger!

I remember once seeing a woman being served in McDonalds. The staff said they’d bring her burger to her to avoid her standing and waiting. She went to her seat and waited – and waited…

She must have stewed for around half an hour before approaching the counter in a rage. She complained she hadn’t received her food and now didn’t have time to eat. They were very apologetic, but now couldn’t remedy her situation. They could give her the burger, but not her time back.

If she’d have approached them after 10 minutes and politely but firmly asked where her burger was, they’d have quickly sorted it. She waited until she was angry and it was too late before having the confidence to complain. Her lack of assertiveness cost her a juicy burger.

How to be more assertive

Don’t Get Mad, Get Assertive!

To be assertive you must summon up courage and confidence BEFORE you get angry. Whilst some people are naturally more inclined to be passive, aggressive or assertive, you can learn how to be assertive. You can do your own assertive training.

Want some assertiveness strategies? Here are some top tips to help you learn to be more assertive…

  • Be conscious of whether you are behaving passively, aggressively or assertively. If you find yourself being passive or aggressive, change to assertive.

  • Be honest and open about your thoughts and feelings.

  • Respect and listen to others thoughts and feelings.

  • Speak slowly and clearly.

  • Don’t cross your arms or legs. Have open confident body language. Putting your hands behind your back may help.

  • Lift your head slightly, rather than it bowed in a subservient way.

  • Make good eye contact.

  • If you feel angry, take a few slow deep breaths. This will quickly calm you.

  • Be fare. This means fare towards others AND yourself.

  • Close your eyes and imagine being someone you consider assertive. Imagine how they’d handle situations in your life. Feel what it’s like to be them.

Final thoughts

I hope you like these strategies of assertive behaviour. Being assertive is a skill, and you can learn how to be more assertive. Read these assertive strategies every day and apply them to your life. After a while they’ll become second nature.

Once you learn how to be more assertive, your life will improve. You will experience less stress, and achieve more in everything you do. You’ll also be able to treat yourself to a nice juicy burger whenever you want one!

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