Most people at some stage ask themselves “Am I depressed?”. There is good reason for this.
It can be difficult to assess whether you’re depressed. You’re busy focusing on jobs, bills, shopping, children, and all of life’s challenges. Focusing on yourself is often an after thought.
When depressed, you can often think you feel “normal”, because that is how you are used to feeling. Sometimes it can be much later before you realise you might be depressed.
However the effects can be devastating.
Depression increases the chance of risky behaviours such as drugs and alcohol addiction.
Depression can also impair sleep and cause break downs in relationships. It can drastically impair someone’s quality of life. To the extreme it can lead to self harming and even suicide. So it should be taken seriously.
Bellow is a FREE depression self assessment questionnaire, courtesy of the NHS in Britain. It is a guide only and is not intended to replace visiting a Doctor. However it might help you judge whether you are suffering from depression.
If you feel in any way that you might be depressed, then please seek professional medical advice…
As we all know, life can be tough. We have to juggle demands from jobs, children, parents, friends and more. Time is often precious and finances can put us under strain.
As a clinical hypnotherapist, I use several simple techniques to make life easier. They don’t require years of study with a master in the Tibetan hills. Or otherworldly powers. They are simple, easy to apply, and can be used straight away. But they have a powerful positive influence on your life.
Please share this article with anyone you think could benefit from these life enhancing techniques.
Here are some techniques I use. My personal favourite is the third one.
Get into your bubble
Sometimes it can be difficult going to an unfamiliar situation. A job interview is a classic. You arrive at a strange place, meet people you don’t know, and talk about yourself intimately. This is a rare situation to find yourself in. It is natural to feel threatened.
Sometimes people feel difficulty just leaving the house.
A good technique to help this is to imagine a protective bubble around you. Spend a few minutes with your eyes closed imagining a protective bubble around you, and say to yourself the word “bubble” several times.
Once you’ve done this, use it immediately to retain this self programming. Go somewhere that’s just a little daunting for you and say to yourself the word “bubble”. Notice how much better you feel.
Hear the crowd roar
It is well established in psychology that a cheering crowd helps raise performance. That’s why athletes and tennis players in particular often attempt to gee up the crowd.
When playing sport or at the gym, I imagine a crowd cheering me on. I see the masses of people in my mind. I hear the roar of everybody spurring me on. Chanting my name, and clapping. I find it incredible how much difference this can make.
Try this next time you are playing sport or at the gym Let me know how it goes.
As I said earlier, this is my personal favourite.
We all feel nervous and anxious at times. But this technique is a belter. It’s so simple yet so powerful. If you were to use only one technique from this article, use this.
When you’re feeling anxious, your breathing becomes shallow, quick and erratic.
In order to combat these feeling of anxiety, simply reverse these breathing trends.
So consciously breathe slowly, deeply, and evenly. You can do this at any time and in any situation. No one will know you are doing it.
Try it right now. Even though you might not being feeling that anxious. Just try 5 slow, deep, even breathes.
Feel a little more relaxed? Try this again when in a stressful situation. I promise you it will help.
The “power break”
Sometimes we have a lot on during the day. You might have been running round for hours, and literally only have a few minutes until you’re running around again.
What you need is a “Power Break”. With this technique you can enjoy an hours worth of relaxation in just 5 minutes. Here’s what you do.
Go into a room by yourself and make sure you won’t be disturbed. Either sit or lie down. (I personally prefer to lie down).
Close your eyes and focus on your breathing. Breathe slowly, deeply and evenly, like we discussed in the previous technique. On every out breath say to yourself the word “relax”, and count your breaths.
So you would say “Relax 1”; “Relax 2”; “Relax 3”…and so on. Do this on every out breathe for as long as you wish. Even if it’s just for 5 minutes, you will feel much more relaxed.
Float off to sleep
Sometimes it can be difficult to get to sleep. The previous technique can help with this. But here’s another one I often employ to help me get to sleep.
When I’m in bed I close my eyes and use my imagination. I imagine floating out of my body and travelling somewhere I find pleasant.
It can be anywhere, such as a tropical beach, to visit family, or go sight seeing. It doesn’t matter whether it is a real place or imagined. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been there before. Just imagine being at this place and enjoying the experience.
This usually quickly allows me to drift off to sleep. This technique also increases your creative abilities if you do it regularly. You will become better at imagining places in greater detail, which has a great knock on effect to aid creativity.
These techniques have significantly helped me in life, and many people I have shown them to. They are all simple enough to be used right away, without any skills required.
But the more you use them, the more they will help you.
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If you want success in whatever you are doing, you have to believe it is going to happen to YOU.
Later I will show you a simple but powerful technique to help you gain belief. But first…
Most people who have goals, live in hope that one day it will happen. Hope is usually not enough as it trusts to luck.
A lot of people live in hope that one day they will be wealthy. However they don’t truly trust their abilities to make it happen. Usually the extent of their action is to play the lottery or pursue some other form of gambling. This is obviously trusting to luck.
You have to truly believe you can achieve if you want a realistic shot at making it happen. This way you’ll have the inner strength to put in the effort to make success a possibility. Sitting back and waiting for success is the worst strategy you can employ. But without a strong inner belief, that is the most likely course of action you will take.
You need a firm belief that you will be successful, then take action.
In a moment I will share with you a technique you can use to build up your belief. First, we’ll talk more about hope and belief…
With hope, you’re unlikely to get beyond moderate success. This is because it blocks you from putting in the proper effort. You hold back, and not even know you’re holding back. With hope you take steps to achieve your goals, then sit back with your fingers crossed and hope. Is this what the winners of the world do?
Say you want to become a full time blogger. You set up a blog in the hope that people will love your writing, and it will pay you a lucrative wage where you can go travelling the world.
You set up an attractive design and update regularly. Then you visit social sites and make friends and share your content. Your readership slowly starts to grow. After months of effort, your visitor growth plateaus and you are stuck at around 100 visitors per day.
You carry on in the same vein, hoping that “something will happen” to push your blog to the next level. Know what? This “something” never happens, unless you’re extremely lucky.
If you truly believe you are going to achieve blogging greatness, you can approach this plateau differently. You look at why you’ve not yet achieved the blogging greatness you deserve. Is your writing really up to standard? Could your blog design be better? Are you marketing it hard enough? Instead of sitting back in hope that something will happen, you take action and make it happen.
Your belief can drive you to try new things, learn new skills, and improve existing skills. You have to grow and learn or else you are stuck in a rut, waiting and hoping.
When trying to achieve anything you always hit a plateau. This is what separates the best from the rest. Most people stick at plateaus, never growing beyond them, even after years of effort. Those people that truly believe they can achieve their goals find a way to push through plateaus and continue to grow.
How to believe
As a clinical hypnotherapist I coach people to have a successful mindset, with some fantastic results. Here is the quickest way I have found to help people discover their inner belief…
You must be clear in your mind what you want. If you want a wage so you can quit your job, then great. If you want to be a high earner so you can travel the world, that is great too. Get it clear in your head what you want to achieve.
Once you have decided, it’s time to visualise. Spend a few minutes every day visualising the success you want as if it has already happened. If you want a luxury villa, then visualise it as if you own it now. Imagine enjoying all the facilities that it comes with. Try to make the image as clear as you can, with all the details, facilities and colour schemes. Spend a few minutes every day doing this.
This helps program your subconscious mind to achieve your goal. Your subconscious mind will be reminded of what you want. In turn it will influence the choices and decisions you make to help you achieve this goal. It’s a very natural process.
Because you are visualising your success as if it is happening now, this bolsters your belief. You will feel it in your core. You will “know” that it is just a question of time. This helps you to properly fight for your goal, rather than live in hope. Belief allows you to dare to put yourself on the line and really go for it. This can make all the difference when you want to achieve something great.
If you don’t believe you can achieve your goals then you will be naturally inclined to save your effort. How successful can you really be when not giving 100%?
Don’t sit back with your fingers crossed and hope to achieve your goals. Make them inevitable. Visualise exactly what it is you want to achieve. Believe you can achieve, and fight hard to make it happen. Go that extra mile to get what you deserve. You have one life, so gather your heart and mind together, and fight for the life you want. Your dreams can become a reality, but only if you believe.
Motivation is a key ingredient to a happy and successful life. The problem is that we are wired to be lazy. Let me explain…
Stone age people didn’t have the abundance of food that we have today. If they wanted to eat then they had to earn it. Stone age folk would have to go hunting and gathering, which burns calories. Any net gain in energy was precious.
Stone age people didn’t want to frivolously burn their precious calories. Once work was done, they would probably laze around and sleep – just like lions do.
Life is different now. Almost everyone can eat as much as they want. There is no need to preserve energy. However our subconscious mind, evolved over millions of years, doesn’t know this. That’s why we must continually fight for motivation.
It is NOT natural to be motivated. We must find ways of creating motivation.
Here’s 7 top tactics to help you stay motivated…
Remind yourself why you want to do something
It’s important to be aware what you are getting out of doing something. If there is no perceived gain, then it’s difficult to stay motivated.
When you don’t feel like going to the gym, you can forget why you started going in the first place. When you feel like you can’t be bothered, remind yourself of all the reasons why you will benefit. Perhaps write them down as a reminder, if you can find the motivation! 😉
Have a dream
If you wish to stay super motivated, then have a dream to aspire to. It might be to retire to a tropical island, or to own your dream home. Find some long term goal that you genuinely aspire to.
Have short term goals
Long term dreams and aspirations can become daunting. It’s always a good idea to break them up with short term goals.
You may wish to aim to save a certain amount every month in order to work towards financing your dream. This will help keep you going through those day-to-day challenges.
Regularly spend time visualising your success. Visualise yourself having achieved your goals, both long term and short term. Gain an understanding of the “feeling” of succeeding. This will help drive you to seek out this success. It’s a way of programming your subconscious mind.
Surround yourself with motivated people
Having motivated people in your life helps inspire you. Their positivity and energy should rub off onto you. They are likely to encourage you and show you how its done.
Eat a healthy balanced diet
Giving yourself the right nutrients can massively increase your energy levels. Aim to eat natural foods, and avoid processed ready meals and snacks.
A good rule of thumb is to eat foods that were available 1000 years ago. Eggs, meats, fruits and vegetables are all good. Cook these from scratch, rather than buy mass produced ready meals.
Drink plenty of water
Dehydration can sap your energy levels. Make sure you drink plenty of pure clean water every day.. It’s especially important to drink water early in the day to get your system up and running.
If you don’t take time out to enjoy life, you can feel “ground down” and lethargic. Find fun things to do to keep yourself interested in life. Enjoying your current life should be considered an essential ingredient to your success.
Do you have any more tips to add? Please write them in the comments bellow…
Timeboxing can help you get a lot done in a short space of time. The benefits are obvious. Your life is more organised, you become more successful, and have less weighing on your mind. Here’s how it works…
Timeboxing involves giving yourself a time deadline to complete a task. You then do it the best you can within the time you have given yourself. Then you stop, whether you have completed the task or not.
To clarify this, here’s a couple of examples of how timeboxing can be used in day to day life…
Examples Of Timeboxing
My daughter is not the most tidiest of people, so her room is often a tip. When faced with the task of tidying up, it seems daunting, and she doesn’t want to tackle it. I have solved this by saying to her I will time her and she has only 10 minutes to make it as good as she can. It’s like a challenge – a sort of a game. I say you don’t need to finish, just make it as good as you can in 10 minutes, then you can go out with your friends.
This makes her happier because she knows she won’t be spending hours laboriously tidying and missing out. It’s only 10 minutes. Plus it makes it more fun as there is a game element to it. She will also get praise for how much she has accomplished in such a short space of time. Every time we have done this she has finished tidying her room and it is a hell of a lot better. The room is transformed in just 10 minutes. It’s amazing what you can accomplish with this technique.
Recently my wife got up late (around 11am) and needed to do her college homework, then go into town to buy a present. She also had college early that evening, so didn’t have a great deal of time to play with. I suggested to her that she does an hour homework right now, then we will go into town together and pick a present, then go out to lunch. Although her homework was only half complete, we were eating lunch by 1pm with a present on the floor next to us. By 2.30pm we were home and she had more time to finish her homework. What could have been a stressful day was turned into a nice day with some leisure time, plus she achieved her objectives. Without this technique she could have had an unpleasant day worrying, and getting little done.
If you have loads of boring filing to do. Give yourself 20 minutes to do as much as you can. You will surprise yourself at how much you can do in such a short space of time. And it won’t feel as bad doing it. If you haven’t completed the task, that’s fine. You can always have another timeboxing session at a later date.
Timeboxing is best used for those long monotonous jobs that don’t need a high level of quality to consider. These are also the jobs that most of us find the most boring, and the ones we leave until “later”.
Why Timeboxing Works
Timeboxing works because it helps you get started with something, instead of worrying about how you are going to do it. It also helps bypass the pressures of perfectionism, which can hamper us from starting, continuing, and finishing something. Jobs that at first appear intimidating can seem far simpler with timeboxing. The problem with most tasks is not completing them, or not starting them in the first place. Timeboxing can significantly help you get things done.
Please let me know how you go along with timeboxing.
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